Online Dating Tips for Christian Single Men
September 24, 2009 by admin
Filed under Dating Tips
Being a Christian man can be difficult as you are holding yourself to a different standard from the rest of the world. Many men and women won’t understand that standard and you may feel left out because of this difference. However, it’s easy for a Christian man to find a good woman when using online Christian dating sites. Here are a few tips to remember for Christian single men when starting to date.
Christian Online Dating Tips: #1 Ask Her Out
You aren’t going to find that special someone until you start looking for her, so ask that pretty girl who keeps talking to you out on a date! Many Christians only date with marriage in mind, which can put a lot of pressure on that first outing. Remember though, you don’t have to ask this girl to marry you – you just have to ask her to dinner.
Christian Online Dating Tips: #2 Don’t Preach
Many good Christians enjoy Church and learning the wisdom of The Bible. However, a first date is not the time to preach the Word of God. Be upfront about your beliefs and let her know the role God plays in your life. Don’t use this time to convert her though. If she isn’t as committed to God as you are from the beginning then a second date probably isn’t needed.
Christian Online Dating Tips: #3 Be Honest
The Bible advocates honesty with good reason, as lies will only hurt you in the end. Christian dating calls for complete honesty. You must be honest about who you are and the role Christianity plays in your life. If your beliefs don’t line up – let her know, it’ll save you time in the end.
Christian Online Dating Tips: #4 Be a Gentleman
Good Christian men do not get physically intimate on a first date or even the second date. You might have different views on that and your date might too. There are many different kinds of people who identify as Christian and there are many different interpretations of the Bible. If she doesn’t want to get intimate before marriage, respect her beliefs and consider whether she is the one for you.
Christian Online Dating Tips: #5 Be Ready to Commit
Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.” Many Christians don’t approve of recreational dating, but that’s a personal choice. Forming friendships with girls is fine but if you are considering romance and intimacy you ought to have a long-term view in mind. Of course, if the first date doesn’t go well you aren’t obliged to see her again. But having good intentions when you approach dating can make all the difference in the world.
This is an incredibly well written article that hits some of the most important and major points that any Christian should consider when online dating. One of the problems I have with most dating advice sites is that they promote the idea of manipulation and trickery…both of which are not only offensive, but highly ineffective at building long term relationships.
Long term relationships are built on the core foundation of honesty, trust, open communication and of course, respect. It’s these core foundations that I promote in my book The Dating Commando (which you can buy from Amazon or directly off my website http://www.dating-commando.com). I will caution you that the book is not for everyone and the website is designed for a very specific market. However, that being said, you will find the information and advice to be top-notch and consistent with the article presented here.
If I may, I’d also like to suggest Christian Dating Tip #6: Be Confident. Don’t mistake this for being rude or disrespectful, but rather simply decisive and self-assured. Just as the bible tells us that if you ask it shall be given, online dating is not that much different. Know what you are looking for and willing to give back, ask and it shall be provided eventually.
Good luck and best wishes. I’d love to hear about your dating successes!
The Dating Commando